But don’t even think about strangling the cat in your arms.
Such a capricious animal, like a cat, loves freedom very much and cannot stand loud exclamations. This is why cats avoid communicating with children. Your furbaby needs a lot of time to sleep, which is why he loves to retire and hide inside comfortable boxes. If you see that your pet is not in the mood to play, leave him alone. Don't pick him up and don't force him to do anything he doesn't want.
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Be especially careful if your cat shows signs of aggression (dilated pupils, tail twitching, fur standing on end, hissing or howling). Just leave your friend alone until you see an improvement in his mood.
How to make your cat love you
Having seen enough colorful photographs and videos of charming fluffy kittens, many people believe that by taking a kitten into their home, they have automatically acquired an affectionate, playful and sociable pet, especially since the owner has already provided an abyss of care and love for the furry baby.
However, after just six months, inexperienced owners are faced with a capricious and unfriendly animal living in their home, insidiously attacking their feet from behind all sorts of hiding places. Strange as it may seem, a cat’s love and trust in its owner must be cultivated, and this is a very painstaking and long work.
Moreover, cats have a vindictive character and they do not forget the insults caused to them. It only seems to the owner that he was absolutely right in punishing his pet for puddling in the wrong place, but the animal itself may not feel guilty, because it does not understand the meaning of the angry tirade uttered by the owner against it.
Play with your pet
When your pet is in a great mood, alternate displays of affection and hugs with outdoor games. Give your cat the opportunity to show his hunting instinct in all its glory. Experts recommend playing with your pet at least once a day. This fun activity keeps your pet in great physical shape and stimulates his brain. Secret: Having games at the same time will help strengthen your bond.
Pet where she likes
One of the manifestations of love is tactile contact. Cats love to be petted. But every cat has its own preferences. Check what your pet likes best and stroke where he likes it best. In response, you will hear a contented purr. Over time, the cat may let you scratch its tummy - this is a sign of trust and love on its part. And if a cat licks you, this means that you have been accepted as one of their own, and you are now a full member of the cat family. Stroking a cat can be combined with combing its fur. A daily ritual will help get rid of dead hairs and avoid the formation of tangles in long-haired breeds.
Play by the cats' rules
You won't believe it, but animals, like people, also have different temperaments. Find out whether your pet likes passive play (sits and watches the toy you move) or whether he belongs to the category of active animals. Don't give up playing if your cat doesn't want to play by your rules. Remember that most natural hunters prefer to chase a moving object rather than roll balls.
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Wild and dangerous beast
Why are cats, even those raised in favorable conditions, friendly but not loving? This contrast is especially noticeable when comparing a cat with a dog. What's wrong with the mustachioed striped ones?
Good to know! The dog was domesticated 10 thousand years ago, and cats became pets only 5 thousand years ago. And even after taming, they had no contact with people for a long time, but simply lived nearby and ate what they could get.
The dogs were “trained,” bred, and adapted. They simply got cats, hoping that they would perform faithful “service.” As a result, humanity received a completely “decent” version of an independent, self-sufficient and unobtrusive pet - a domestic cat.
A cat should be treated like a “wild” animal, allowing for strong instincts and an innate desire for independence.
This is interesting! Cats become relatively slowly attached to their owners and value their territory and way of life more.
Nevertheless, the cat makes a lot of efforts to coexist normally with the owner. Adapting to the owner's lifestyle, the cat remains a jealous and territorial animal. If you have multiple animals in your home, your cat may become resentful of the lack of attention.
Feeding strategy
If your pet prefers to keep his distance from you, an effective feeding strategy will help. Leave food in the same room as you are, but maintain a respectful distance. When the kitten gets used to your presence and becomes bolder, gradually reduce the distance. While he is eating, talk to him in a soft, quiet voice. Cats hate harsh sounds, so they love men more than overly emotional women.
Who is the boss in this house?
Many owners of meowing pets will categorically declare that the cat is the owner of the house and it doesn’t matter that you fill the refrigerator and pay for heating. However, cats are solitary by nature; they do not live in packs, only sometimes uniting in small prides to obtain food for themselves. Therefore, representatives of the cat family do not know how to obey anyone, and do not tolerate demonstrations of superiority from others, therefore, the more confident a pet feels in the house, the less reason it has for aggression. It is not suitable to punish an animal with the usual spankings with a newspaper; you need to pretend to be an animal yourself - hiss and growl, sometimes gently coax and be sure to praise for the right actions.
Don't punish your pet
Even if you don't like the animal's behavior, you don't need to yell at the cat, spray water, or use violence. Any form of punishment does not work at all when it comes to interacting with animals. You are in different mental categories. The cat does not learn the “lesson”, but sees your aggression. This creates tension between you.
Therefore, focus your efforts on trying to train your pet to behave correctly. For example, if a cat jumps on a table, don't shoo it away. Try to make him want to go down on his own. For example, place a treat or toy on the floor.
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Hooray? Victory?
Goodbye scratched hands! Now my beast will surely become the most affectionate cat! We hasten to disappoint: failure to fulfill at least one of the conditions can lead to open aggression, but strict adherence to all recommendations does not guarantee a sociable character
The fact is that all the advice on the topic “How to make a cat affectionate” does not work in a number of cases:
Patience, attention to detail and the awareness that a cat has its own passions and interests will definitely help you raise a cozy pet from a small predator. Study the life of cats in nature - this greatly helps to understand the behavior of your pet in a given situation.
Causes
If you own a cat—or rather, own one—you're probably all too familiar with the sound of its blood-curdling scream or scream. Cats are often bold and loud. Even if the voice seems meaningless to you, your kitten is most likely trying to communicate.
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- Pairing. If your cat or female cat is not neutered, then all the noise may indicate hunting for a mate. Even if you think all is well in the world and your cat has no reason to scream, he may be going through a wild rollercoaster of raging hormones. Cats often howl and scream to call out to nearby members of the opposite sex, basically shouting from the rooftops that they are ready to mate. This vocalization is especially frequent at night—quite inconvenient if you're trying to get some sleep.
- Disappointment. A cat's cry can also be a simple expression of frustration. Maybe he can't find his favorite catnip ball and is desperately searching the house for it. Perhaps he took a leisurely nap behind the refrigerator and now cannot get out. A cat that constantly screams is often under stress - he wants a little help from you.
- Fear. Cat screaming is also often a sign of fear, plain and simple. Let's say your little furball makes a big sticky mess in the kitchen and ends up in the trash can and gets jam all over his fur. If you start running water in the bath, your naughty little one might know exactly what that means - a terrible bath time - and start screaming endlessly. Cats tend to be very afraid of water, so be prepared for the cacophony to continue throughout bath time.
- Confusion. As cats get older, their cognitive abilities often decline, whether it involves memory, vision, hearing, or something else. When a cat's senses fail her, she may resort to screaming out of sheer confusion. Maybe your beloved pet just can't find his way down the stairs and he doesn't know what to do with himself, so he screams to cope.
- Pain and illness. Instead of getting angry at your cat because it screams for no reason, think about the fact that the poor cat might be in a lot of pain. He may be sick or simply not feeling well, be it kidney disease, hyperthyroidism, diabetes, or even just severe abdominal pain. To be on the safe side, always take your cutie to the vet for a checkup if he keeps screaming and howling and you can't figure out why.
- Cat games are fun. Very often, excessive screaming occurs due to... boredom. The kitten is simply letting you know that he wants you to find something for him. We deliberately do not use the phrase “the pet wants you to take care of it.” In addition to satisfying your pet's instincts (the so-called heat cycle: house hunting - chasing the rod, finishing the meal), you have a number of options that do not necessarily mean that you need to devote all of your precious free time to your cat. However, they require a little initiative at the very beginning.
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Why do cats love to sleep with their owners?
In order for a cat to sleep next to me, I, as the owner, must become familiar with the reasons that prompt her to this action. Cat psychology reveals several reasons that help answer this question:
- Cats are quite heat-loving animals. They adore warmth, especially the warmth of a living body.
- The next reason lies in the special smell that comes from hair, especially women's hair.
- Another reason lies in the feeling of protection; the cat sleeps with the person with whom she feels calm, confident, with whom she feels comfortable and cozy.
- Animal psychologists say that throughout the life of a cat, a cat perceives its owner as a mother. That is why she will sleep with me as a mother. Until old age, she tramples on her owner with her paws, like a newborn kitten suckling its mother. When a kitten lives in a cat family, it sleeps clinging to its mother's barrel. If a cat has complete trust with a person, then the pet will sleep next to him throughout his life. And I, as an owner, will never have a question about how to get my pet to sleep next to me.
- There is a popular belief that cats have a strong biofield and they sense where a person has problems. Pets lie mainly on problem areas of the body, thereby healing a person.
How to increase your importance to the right man?
Now let's move on to the topic of significance. Let me remind you once again that significance is a man’s investment in you. The more a man invests in you (gifts, money, care, time, etc.), the higher your importance.
In the previous paragraphs, we discussed the topic of value and how to become valuable to a man. So, if a man sees your value, then making him start investing is not difficult. Because at this stage he should already be interested, if, of course, you conveyed your value correctly.
How to get a man to invest?
1) Ask for what is available
At the initial stages of your communication, ask the man to do for you what he is able to handle. If on the first date you ask to buy you coffee, that’s ok, such an investment is quite acceptable. But if on the same first date you ask to buy his apartment, this is too much, since your level of trust is not yet that great.
Therefore, start with the little things, and make sure that the man gets used to investing in you a little bit, gradually increasing the momentum.
An example of investing and increasing significance from life. Summer evening, I am walking with a girl in the park - we are on our first date. She started talking about some book she had read. This book really resonated with her, and I decided to use this situation as a resource. I told her, “Please give me this book for a while, I want to read it.” The girl gladly gave me her book; she made a small investment in me already on the first date. This increased my importance because she was already invested, even if it was a small action. Did I need this book? - No. It was just a resource to increase its importance. I began to teach her to invest and share with me from a small point of view.
When a person invests in you, your importance increases. This is how the human brain works and nothing can be done about it.
When you invest in a man (by washing his socks or preparing food), it is his importance that increases, not yours. The importance of a girl will increase only when the man begins to invest.
Therefore, the idea “I do everything for him so that he loves me” is not working. For a man to love, he must give!
2) “I’m pleased”
I want you to use the phrase “I’m pleased” or “I would be very pleased if...” as often as possible. This is how you provoke a man to invest.
- “I’m pleased when a man gives me flowers”
- “I feel good when people take care of me”
- “I’m starting to develop feelings for someone who pleases me.”
Say these phrases more often to the right man and then he will begin to please you. But, if your value to him is low, then he will not do anything and the phrase “I’m pleased” can have the opposite effect. For example, a man may answer, “Do you only want gifts from men?” If you hear such a phrase from him, it means that you incorrectly conveyed your value (he didn’t see it) and did not evoke the right emotions.
When a man falls in love with a girl and sees her value, on the contrary, he wants to please her. Therefore, a negative response to this phrase serves as a useful signal that you are doing something wrong.
3) Praise
Remember, if a man pleases you, you should always praise him for it and give him your share of attention. Because this way you encourage him to behave correctly. If a man came with flowers, and you accepted them with a cold look and didn’t even say a pleasant word, then the following thought will arise in his head: “Why the hell did I even lock this broom, she clearly doesn’t care about me.” And that’s it, his motivation to look after you will begin to disappear.
Therefore, do not be stingy with praise and tenderness. You turn on the coldness and ignore only in response to his incorrect behavior. But when he pleases you, you give him positivity so that in those moments he feels like a hero next to you.
Conclusions:
Before you provoke a man into investing, you need to demonstrate your value. When a man sees your value and wants your attention, he will easily start investing, you just need to ask. The more a man invests in you, the higher your importance to him. Praise a man for doing the right thing and punish him for doing the wrong thing.
Punish with coldness, lack of interest and without emotion. Include positive emotions when praising a man. Use the phrase “I’m pleased” and “I’m pleased when...” if you want a man to do something for you.
