No matter how developed society becomes, a cat always remains something mysterious and incomprehensible for a person. And most of all, her ability to be independent, walking on her own, raises questions. Many people say that it happens that a cat does not love its owner. Is it so?
By the way, there are thousands of amazing stories about how a cat showed loyalty to a person and helped him out in the most difficult situations. Either she saved the owner’s family from a fire, waking them up in the middle of the night, or she pointed out the place where long-lost heirlooms were kept. And she even treated the most difficult human diseases.
Yes, it’s not easy to communicate with a cat. She decides for herself whether she can be petted, what and when she wants to eat, where she will sleep. In addition, she may not come when you call her. Or leave if she didn't like something. She may not be friends with your loved one. Or even worse: he may begin to take revenge on him or her for the fact that all the master’s attention goes to someone else. All these facts may really make you think that your own cat doesn't love you. And this is very upsetting or even makes you angry at an unsuspecting animal. And also distance yourself from communicating with him or punish him for “dislike.”
Let's figure out why the cat behaves this way and whether its behavior should be considered signs of dislike.
Personal space
Now the cat wants you to scratch behind his ear, and a second later he hits you with his paw in irritation. This is the nature of these animals.
In most cases, an owner who is sympathetic to these mood swings will win the cat's heart. These animals will definitely not be kind to those who bother them when they themselves are not in the mood to contact people. A person will have a better chance of developing a good relationship with a cat if they are allowed to take control of the situation. Such pets love people who respect their personal space.
The animal does not go into your arms and does not want to be petted.
It is important to understand that in the wild, cats do not live in packs. Yes, they sometimes all get together, but, nevertheless, such companies do not have any clear hierarchy or specific group “rules”. It's every man for himself. That is why they instinctively continue to lead a safe lifestyle on your territory. By giving them this opportunity, you are showing respect for their natural nature.
Personality
Just like people, cats have their own characteristics. Some are always ready to fight, while others are more comfortable sitting in a quiet place. Therefore, cats choose their friends based on who best matches their personal qualities.
These animals have excellent powers of observation and know who in the family is cheerful, who is quite quiet, who is boring and noisy, and who is scary. Felines will always gravitate towards a person who behaves the same way as them. In relation to everyone else, they will behave quite reservedly.
What is the cat doing?
Rats and mice, which are still sometimes exterminated by a cat, are something of a related service. The cat has a different purpose. Cats, they say, have a unique bioenergetic system. Seals can correct the biofields of the surrounding space, sometimes even completely restoring and stabilizing them! Cats really are a way to normalize blood pressure, relieve headaches, and also help with stress.
At the same time, the cat reflects the human condition. If everything is in order with the owner, then the cat will sleep a lot, wash itself, and eat well. She will hide behind the sofa and closet if a person feels bad! At the same time, the cat will always come to calm down someone who has been unfairly offended.
Breed
Many cat behaviorists say that there are breeds that only have room in their hearts for one person. These include Bengal, Himalayan, Siamese and Norwegian forest cats. Once they find someone they like, they often cut ties with others. Although, of course, all cats, regardless of breed, are individual.
At the same time, the animal’s standard of living in this relationship to the owner does not play a role - it is enough for the cat that it is satisfied with a certain interaction and does not feel the need to look for another “love”.
It can be sad for an animal not to be loved by its owner, but this does not mean that the pet does not care about you at all. He may choose other people to pet and play with and may not always respond positively when you try to interact with him, but you still play an important role in his life. Try to get your cat's attention without being intrusive - this may improve her attitude towards you.
From: iheartcats.com
What kind of people do cats like?
The answer to the question of what kind of people cats love lies in the psychology of these animals, namely, in the peculiarities of their lifestyle and preferences. Cats love comfort and warmth, they can bask in the sun for hours and sleep up to 20 hours a day, and also spend a lot of time taking care of themselves - licking their fur and paws, “washing themselves,” etc. Most of the time cats behave independently , leisurely and measured, and only sometimes they want to run, jump, sharpen their claws and chase each other or live or toy mice. Therefore, representatives of the cat family love people whose habits resemble them. And vice versa, cats treat with distrust and wariness those people who are very different in behavior from purrs - they fuss, make a lot of sudden movements, are in constant tension, etc.
Animal psychologists, observing cats and their owners, have found that cats show love and affection for people who seem understandable to them and at the same time do not pose a danger to them.
And cats determine this very degree of similarity and human safety by the following criteria:
- Voice. Cats are attracted to people with a pleasant timbre of voice, who speak calmly, slowly and with soft intonations. And since nature has endowed women with a more gentle and pleasant-to-hear voice, it is not surprising that cats often love the fair sex more than men. However, a cat may well get used to a man’s voice and fall in love with its owner if he does not scream, hiss and make other sounds that are frightening and unpleasant for the animal in her presence.
- Movements. Cats like people who move slowly and leisurely much more than fussy and impetuous individuals, since these animals can perceive sharp swings of their arms, a swift gait and any impetuous movements as a potential threat to themselves.
- Smell. Everyone knows about the ability of dogs to distinguish many odors, but few people know that cats also have a very sensitive sense of smell and, not least of all, evaluate new acquaintances by smell. As a rule, felines do not like people who smell like dogs, other cats, alcohol, vinegar, or too strong perfume.
- Attitude towards the cat. Surely many cat owners have noticed that their furry purrs show much more sympathy for those guests who are indifferent to them, but they avoid people who immediately try to pick up or stroke the animal. The explanation for this love of cats for those who do not pay special attention to them is simple: cats, being independent animals, value their personal space and really do not like annoying pesters. The animal will most likely hide from a person trying to stroke and cuddle an unfamiliar cat at the first opportunity. However, natural curiosity is also inherent in cats, so sooner or later they will want to get to know and study a person who is next to them, but who is not paying attention to them.
Of all the family members, the cat will most likely choose the calmest person as his owner and pet, who feeds and cares for the animal, but at the same time does not impose his love on him - does not try to constantly squeeze and stroke him, does not bother him during sleep and rest, etc. And vice versa, cats are often indifferent to children and do not like to play with children too much, since these independent animals do not like to be carried for a long time in their arms, squeezed, dragged by the tail, and even more so, dressed up like a doll.
But don’t even think about strangling the cat in your arms.
Such a capricious animal, like a cat, loves freedom very much and cannot stand loud exclamations. This is why cats avoid communicating with children. Your furbaby needs a lot of time to sleep, which is why he loves to retire and hide inside comfortable boxes. If you see that your pet is not in the mood to play, leave him alone. Don't pick him up and don't force him to do anything he doesn't want.
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Be especially careful if your cat shows signs of aggression (dilated pupils, tail twitching, fur standing on end, hissing or howling). Just leave your friend alone until you see an improvement in his mood.
Connection with a cat
There are no people who don't care about cats at all. There are those who love these animals and those who hate them! There are practically no people who are indifferent to cats. Typically, cats are hated by alcoholics, as well as women with an unstable personal life. And also children who have been subjected to domestic violence. In a word, those for whom everything is so bad that cat stabilization is simply unbearable for them - this is the impact that they are trying to avoid. These are people who don't want to accept help.
Psychologist Alina Cherubini confirms: take any person who is satisfied with his unhappy life, and suggest that he go to a psychotherapist or take calming pills. But he will simply send you away!.. It’s the same with cats - we either accept help from the “tailed doctor”, or a helmet and him, so that it does not interfere with reveling in our suffering.
JoeInfoMedia journalist Diana Lynn reminds us that we wrote not so long ago about getting out of binge drinking, and mentioned the main thing: you can’t get out of binge drinking if you’re not ready for it! If a wife, for example, tries to feed her husband healthy pills, and the husband is not at all eager to stop drinking immediately, then at best, nothing will come out of this, and at worst, another outburst of husband’s anger and domestic violence to such a degree that it will end in divorce ... however, much more traumatic than if there were no attempts to forcefully help. Any violence is bad, and it doesn’t matter whether it is for the good or not.
So, don't force cats on anyone, but remember: a person who doesn't like cats doesn't want to be helped.
How to protect yourself
Friends, I want to remind you that cats are descendants of wild animals and are guided by instincts. Sometimes even pets we know well behave unpredictably. If you see that the cat is aggressive and is not in the mood to get closer, do not provoke it! Leave the animal in the room and wait out this moment. You might find my article on how to calm a cat useful.
To protect yourself from scratches and wounds, wear thick clothing with long sleeves. If you go to tame a street dweller, it doesn’t hurt to wear gloves and take with you regular cardboard, which you can use to scare away the cat (with noise and sudden movement) if something goes wrong. Stay away from wild animals. If they need help, call animal control or contact volunteers.
After contact with street cats, disinfect your hands.
Don't punish your pet
Even if you don't like the animal's behavior, you don't need to yell at the cat, spray water, or use violence. Any form of punishment does not work at all when it comes to interacting with animals. You are in different mental categories. The cat does not learn the “lesson”, but sees your aggression. This creates tension between you.
Therefore, focus your efforts on trying to train your pet to behave correctly. For example, if a cat jumps on a table, don't shoo it away. Try to make him want to go down on his own. For example, place a treat or toy on the floor.
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Play with your pet
When your pet is in a great mood, alternate displays of affection and hugs with outdoor games. Give your cat the opportunity to show his hunting instinct in all its glory. Experts recommend playing with your pet at least once a day. This fun activity keeps your pet in great physical shape and stimulates his brain. Secret: Having games at the same time will help strengthen your bond.
Feeding strategy
If your pet prefers to keep his distance from you, an effective feeding strategy will help. Leave food in the same room as you are, but maintain a respectful distance. When the kitten gets used to your presence and becomes bolder, gradually reduce the distance. While he is eating, talk to him in a soft, quiet voice. Cats hate harsh sounds, so they love men more than overly emotional women.
Instincts
John Bradshaw, author of Cat Sense, explains to NPR that feline instincts can make you think a cat doesn't care about its owner at all: "They come from solitary animals who never needed social interaction." system."
Unlike dogs, which move in packs, cats, for the most part, are solitary hunters, accustomed to surviving on their own. But domesticated indoor animals don't need to hunt for food (although they do stalk prey in the form of toys and your socks) and rely entirely on their owners for survival. The cat needs you to satisfy its needs for food, water, health and love, but independence - as a trait of its character - does not disappear anywhere!
How to tame an outdoor cat
Attempts to start a friendship with a street cat may be dictated by the desire to adopt it for a life together, the desire to help it survive or provide medical assistance.
Various animals live on the street: wild, semi-wild and feral. Wild cats most often do not make contact - they are not familiar with humans, so they are dangerous and difficult to tame. Semi-wild animals are familiar with people, and although they are not allowed to be handled, they approach a person and allow themselves to be fed. Feral cats are the most defenseless inhabitants of the streets, because they came to the wild urban jungle from the comfort of their owner’s home. Such cats are tamed very quickly.
I suggest you immediately determine the goal: why do you want to tame a street animal and will this cause him harm? Think about it: is it really safe to have a relationship with this cat? I recommend reading the article How to Catch a Cat, which will help you easily catch the animal and help it. If your goal is to provide medical care, entrust the catch to special services.
I propose to consider several ways to help tame an outdoor cat.
Help me get used to you
An animal should set you apart from the gray mass of people. People can be dangerous - this is true, so it is important that the cat remembers you by the tone and timbre of your voice, as well as by smell. To do this, you need to be close to the cat, preferably at the same level, and talk to it.
Don’t try to get closer on your own, it won’t lead to anything good, at least at first. Give time to get used to the fact that there is a person nearby and this presence does not cause harm.
Offer food
Bring some food with you. If the animal has gone without food for a long time or has been on a poor diet, an abundance of food can worsen its condition, so offer small portions, but often.
If your cat is holed up in a hard-to-reach area, move the food as close to her as possible and move away. Do not stand over the animal while feeding, move away from it, but be in sight.
If you see that your cat is feral or semi-feral, invite her to take a treat from your open palm. Be prepared for the fact that not all pets know how to carefully take food from their hands.
During feeding, do not establish contact: do not pick him up or try to stroke him. Try to avoid sudden movements and noise.
Arrange the place
If possible, set up a place where your pet can feel comfortable. For example, take a spacious box and place rags made from natural materials inside. Place the structure near the cat's location.
When the animal gets used to your presence and expects feeding time, you can attract it to its new home with food or other treats. Place a bowl of food in the box and show the way to it by scattering a trail of treats.
Suggest a contact
Only after the pet feels comfortable, is confident in its safety and the availability of food, will it perhaps want to make contact.
You can help this happen by slowly holding out your open palm to the cat. The animal will sniff it and you can try to touch it.
After some time, try the procedure again, only this time pet your pet several times. When contact is achieved, you can take your pet to live in an apartment or leave it to live in a comfortable house, but be sure to take care of warmth and food!
Provide your pet with comfort
A pet that has lived on the street will have a hard time adapting to an apartment or house, especially if you already have other animals. Be prepared for the fact that now you need to pay more attention to the newcomer, and your task is to make his stay in the new home comfortable and safe.
The animal must have individual dishes, a separate place to rest and its own tray. Foreign smells will only interfere with adaptation. Some recommend pouring soil into the tray for the first time - this will make the cat more accustomed to relieving itself.
Leave your pet alone with the house for at least a few hours: give him the opportunity to sniff things, find a safe place to rest and get used to the environment. Avoid loud noises and isolate your pet from small children and dogs.
Next, try to use the tips that are contained in the first half of the article and are applicable for domestic cats.
Internet exploits
To be honest, we’ve all seen Internet memes involving cats.
There are simply countless of them on the World Wide Web. There are also quite successful ones, causing, if not Homeric laughter, then a smile. And let’s think again: what tricks did the author of the photo go to in order to achieve such “success”? How many “takes” did he manage to do? A bad example, as we know, is contagious. Other people's laurels haunt potential YouTubers. You think over the composition, call your pet and force him to take completely unimaginable poses, which for some reason seem funny. And the question that you are going against the cat’s nature remains behind the scenes. Nowadays, likes are everything! Original: 7 Human Behaviors Cats Hate. Author: Mychelle Blake. Source: pethealthnetwork.com Photo: drasler.ru (from open sources)
Do cats feel their owner's love?
Perhaps the first spark comes from the person himself. How can you not fall in love with such a sweet and adorable face? Undoubtedly, if you think about whether cats feel the love of their owner, there is no point in guessing. The animal will reciprocate and appreciate the care taken for it. However, there is also another side to the coin. Purrs are vengeful creatures. There is no need to bathe the animal, drive it away from its favorite place, or beat it. Revenge will be expressed in torn furniture or in a puddle in the wrong place.
These unpleasant moments can occur when a cat loves its owner very much. Perhaps he paid less attention to her than to the guests. But here it’s worth taking care of the last one. The animal can spoil their shoes or bag with an unpleasant odor.
However, such incidents are still extremely rare. In most cases, the cat loves its owner very much, despite his bad attitude. The tender feelings of a purr can also be expressed in obtaining food for a cherished person. If a cat loves his owner very much, he can carry mice for him. We are, of course, talking about the private sector. In the apartment things are a little different. Don't be surprised when there's a piece of fish or meat on the bed. A caring animal has brought you lunch!
